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Why? Why? Why?… Why? Experience that in your house? Why does your child repeat questions, over and over… and over again?
Ha. Okay. I won’t be the one with the repetitive questions. Its probably your kids.
There’s the ‘why’ stage that we’re currently in. (Which I think I’m pretty good at answering… for now.) But, I’m sure the nagging repeat questions from my child will be coming soon in full force.
At times, Henry does ask the same questions over and over. Right now, luckily, it usually only takes a matter of fact answer to get him to stop.
If I waver though, he digs in and asks until he gets what he wants. If its ‘just the way it is’ then the questions usually end.
Henry’s only three now though.
Why Does your Child Repeat Questions Over and Over and How to Stop it – From the Experts
It looks like from the question below from Holly, that this isn’t going to just stop here and now.
I’ll have to take action on this before the questions get out of hand!
How do I limit my children from asking the same questions over and over? With my 10 y/o, he will ask to get together with his friends in the morning and then ask about 10 more times during the day whether it will happen in different phrasing even if I say that “today we can’t make those arrangements”. Then he starts asking for the following day or week, etc. Even when we SEE his friends on the way home he is asking to get back together with them. — asked by Holly
This week’s advice and helpful tips come from all four experts:
- Parenting Expert: Erin of The Intentional Parent
- Lifestyle Expert: Sarah of Füdoo Boards
Answer from parenting expert, Erin from The Intentional Parent:
My five year old does this (it sure is tiring, huh?).
First of all, think of the positive aspects: he is excited and exuberant about getting together with his friends. I know that with my son, he gets so excited about doing something that he forgets that he has already asked the question, sometimes he’ll even ask it several times in a row.
What I have found helpful, is to encourage him to slow down a little bit, stop and think before he asks a question. If I find my child repeats the same question several times, I’ll stop answering the question, and respond instead, I’ve already given you the answer, and ask him to tell me the answer.
He just gets so excited about doing something, his mind goes so fast, he sometimes needs help slowing down. I think that quiet time, or quiet activities without the TV on is helpful for kids like this to help them slow down a little.
— Erin, The Intentional Parent
Answer from lifestyle expert, Sarah from Füdoo Boards:
I am thinking that you live outside of town, where your child needs a car ride in order to visit friends. This can be difficult for you and him because his reliance on you is cutting into his growing need to be independent. Here are a couple thoughts for you.
- Set a regular, weekly playdate so he can know that playing time isn’t ‘up in the air’ but a set time. Don’t call it a playdate, because that is sooo uncool at 10 years old, but set up a time with the friend’s parents and stick to it. Put it on a calendar that he can keep track of.
- Find an afterschool activity that your son will enjoy. Having a scheduled extracurricular activity will keep him from getting bored at home and might help to maximize the time he spends with friends from school.
Hopefully the questioning from your son about playing with friends will start to diminish.
When the same question from your son starts to drive you crazy, let him know you are keeping track of the number of times he asks. State when the ‘playdate’ is and let him know he has asked once. Then let him know he has asked twice on #2. Also warn him if he asks a third time he will have to go to his room and then remove yourself from the situation.
Whatever you do – don’t play along.
— Sarah, Fudoo Boards
Why do kids ask repetitive questions?
From what I gather from our amazing experts above there are a few things at play when a child repeats a question over and over.
Most of the time it is a simple case of excitement! Kids minds are running so fast that they have forgotten they already asked that question and have the answer.
Other times it seems to be a matter of not having received the answer they are hoping for. If the answer is too vague than your child will repeat the question until the answer is concrete and they can understand it.
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- Gender Awareness: What do you do when a child in your class seems to be a little too aware of private parts & boy/girl relationships?
- Acting Out:
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Thank you experts for your extensive knowledge!
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